Connecting With Your Wounded Inner Child

There's a part of you that's much younger than you are. She lives inside, mostly out of sight, and she's the one who flinches when criticism lands. She's the one who feels small in the meeting with the senior people. She's the one who decides, before you have time to think, that you're not safe to speak up.

Most of us have spent decades trying to override her. We've built strategies, careers and personalities designed to make sure no one ever sees her. We've called her weakness and tried to outrun her.

The trouble is that you can't outrun a part of yourself. You can only learn to meet her.

When we connect with the wounded inner child in a session, we're not engaging in metaphor. The subconscious holds memory at the age it was formed. The five year old who learned she had to be quiet to be loved is still five inside. The eight year old who decided he had to be perfect to be safe is still eight. They're doing the best they can with what they understood at the time.

What they need is what they didn't get then. To be seen. To be told it wasn't their fault. To be reassured that the adult version of them is here now and that she's strong enough to handle what comes.

This is some of the most tender work we do together. It's also some of the most transformative. The pattern that has run your relationships, your work and your sense of self for thirty years can shift in an afternoon when the part of you holding the original wound is finally met.

You are not broken. You are carrying a child who never got what she needed. The moment you turn toward her, everything starts to change.

She has been waiting for you.